First I visited forums where cancer patients and their significant others discussed the challenges of dating after cancer.
As it turns out, men and women both struggle with identifying the best time to tell a new love interest about their cancer history.
It’s normal to have fears and concerns about dating and sexual intimacy.
However, these concerns should not keep you from pursuing relationships.
The site connects cancer patients for both romance and friendship, noting the benefits of forging a relationship with someone who’s experienced similar struggles.
“Other people like you are out there waiting for you, ready and willing to give you support and love,” the site urges.
If you are struggling to start new relationships or you are anxious about dating, consider these options: People’s preferences about when and how to share their cancer experiences differ.
You may feel that talking about your diagnosis and treatment is too personal to share immediately.
My female patients report that the men they meet don’t look much like their profile photos—hair loss and 20 pounds of extra weight are often the reality of meeting in person. My patients ask me what they should do next—and having never registered a profile myself, I am not able to provide much more than common sense suggestions.
They often want to find someone with whom to share their life—and this is a real challenge.
There are times when I am tempted to start a matchmaking service for the men and women, both gay and straight, who tell me how lonely they are and how they long for someone to share their life with. I often hear stories that describe how difficult it is to dip an older toe into the world of dating in 2015; the world is so different from the 1950s and 1960s when last they were single.
I told him I used to be shier than I am now, that I haven’t ever worked in an environment conducive to meeting single men, and then I put it all out there, the single most pertinent reason for my absence from the dating scene: I’m a two-time cancer survivor.
I felt as though I would be lying if I didn’t mention this to him, because, after all, I’ve been dealing with leukemia in some form or another for the past five years.